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    The next time your partner has something to share with you, consider the following:
    • Is my mind wandering or I am completely focused on what my partner is saying right now?
    • Am I looking at my partner, or am I gazing out the window, at my cell phone, at the television, etc.?
    • Am I interacting with my partner – asking questions that show I am being attentive?
    • How else can I express my interest in what my partner is saying?
     
    SAY IT & BELIEVE IT Read aloud (individually or together):
     
    We all want to be liked by others, especially by our spouses. It is easy to let distractions keep me from giving undivided attention to ( spouse’s name ) . I understand that he/she wants to feel important to me. _____ wants me to know that I find him/her interesting and fun. When _____ speaks, he/she wants to know that I want to hear everything he/she tells me. When _____ shows me something, he/she wants me to watch with interest. When _____ wants to have a discussion with me, he/she wants me to interact with him/her and be engaged in the topic. These are the same things I want from him/her as well.
     
    From this day forward, I will give _____ more of my undivided attention. I will express more genuine interest in him/her. I will become more interactive and curious. Even if I am not totally absorbed in what _____ is saying or doing, I will pay attention to him/her. And as I do, _____ will feel important to me. He/she will know that he/she is interesting, fun and truly liked.
     
    I will give my attention and show interest in my spouse as I admire who he/she is and enjoy his/her company.
     
     
     
    PUT IT INTO PRACTICE
     
    This week, pick a day in which you share something interesting and fun with your spouse. It can be anything that you want your partner to know and appreciate about you.
     
    For example, Diane enjoys blogging about health and fitness. She writes her own articles and makes video demonstrations to share with her online community, but she would also like to share her passion with her husband Ryan. Knowing it is important to his wife, Ryan agrees to participate in her next video and start reading her posts.
     
    Ken is an enthusiastic football fan. He has a great deal of knowledge about the sport’s history, teams and players that he would like to share with his wife Rachel. Knowing how much her husband enjoys football Rachel chooses to be open and learn about her husband’s favorite hobby. She also plans to watch the next game with him.
     
    After you complete the exercise, talk about your experiences and what it meant to you. What did you learn about your partner? What was it like to share and participate in your spouse’s interests?
     
     
    THINK ABOUT IT
     
    I just want to be loved, is that so wrong?! ~Harvey Fierstein
     
    Whatever we possess becomes of double value when we have the opportunity of sharing it with others. ~Jean Nicolas-Bouilly
     
    Promise yourself to be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. ~Christian Larson
    You need to be aware of what others are doing, applaud their efforts, acknowledge their successes, and encourage them in their pursuits. When we all help one another, everybody wins. ~John Stovall
     
    I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you. ~Roy Croft

RELATIONSHIP BUILDER ELEVEN
     

Show Love and Affection
     
    Can you recall a time when you felt truly happy and in love just being in the presence of your spouse? Maybe being with her made you laugh and forget all the cares of the world. She had a way of making you feel important and valued. You may not remember exactly what she said or did at the time, but you can remember the feelings you had. You felt alive and special.
     
    Though simple acts of affection like holding hands, hugging, kissing, and saying “I love you” can do wonders in a relationship, they become unforgettable when true love and concern are present.