mean you’re owed anything except love, life and the pursuit of happiness. Anything extra is earned. You’re entitled to what you struggle for. Stop expecting anyone to do for you what you’re unwilling to do for yourself. Yes, you’re God’s gift to the world, but so are seven billion others.
Rule n ° 15 Texting isn’t courting . Everyday text messaging isn’t a real relationship…you two are just pen pals. People need affection. People need feeling. People need hugs. People need people in real life. Let’s get back to basics, people.
Rule n ° 17 Non-violence : A Lady isn’t interested in violence. It’s OK to admit hurt. It’s not OK to retaliate. Resolve that pain instead of acting on it. You’re allowed to be upset about injustice. Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t give evil that kind of foothold in your life. What’s the point in beating the bullies if you just take their place?
Rule n ° 19 Don’t be with him unless you’d be proud to have a son exactly like him . And while you’re at it, be the woman you’d want your daughter to be and the Lady you’d want your son to date.
Rule n ° 21 Consideration : Thoughtfulness and sensitivity for others are the core points of what being a gentlewoman is all about. It’s not always all about you. If you order to-go food over the phone and something comes up, call to cancel the order. You’d be surprised at how many people don’t execute that simple gesture. If you work in customer service, always consider your customer and always give great service. This sounds like common sense, but common sense is uncommon. Don’t bring crying babies to rated R movies. If you take out a pack of gum in front of others, offer them a piece. If you’re not in a sharing mood, wait until you’re alone to take it out, or fake a yawn to put it in your mouth. Put yourself in other’s shoes.
Rule n ° 23 In a closet full of clothes, you say you have nothing to wear – be that selective in a room full of men . A single Lady who doesn’t make men her primary focus will always have options – A single Lady who thirsts for men will always be single. Men generally focus on women who focus on themselves. You don’t chase love–you attract it. It’s given freely. You don’t have to beg or sell your soul for it. You just have to accept it.
NOTE : You may feel like you offer a lot, but don’t have many options. You will always have options. Whether or not you like your options is an entirely different story. You should never change your core standards, just your idea of how we think the manifestation of those standards looks.
Rule n ° 25 Politeness : It’s easy to be polite in the company of politeness. The real challenge is maintaining politeness in the company of an ass. Your mood should never dictate your manners.
Rule n ° 27 Don’t believe the hype that your standards are too high because you desire what you offer . Never allow lazy people with no goals and no ambition to convince you of this. Too many women without pets go home to dogs. Release the leash. If he complains about meeting your basic standards and can’t notice a good woman in front of him, perhaps he’ll notice when you’re gone. Your standards don’t mean you’re picky – they just mean you know how to pick. You deserve a gentleman.
Or perhaps you’re in a space where you feel like you offer a lot, but don’t have a lot of options. Listen, you will always have options. Let your standards protect you and never grow weary in well doing. Your story might not be the same as the next woman, but your story is your story, and your story isn’t over. When a woman is truly secure and ready for love, love will find her. You demand things with your words. You command them with your actions. Let your standards speak, and you won’t have to say much...they’ll already know.
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