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woman you want to be and the legacy you want to leave.
    Rule n ° 39 Happiness : It’s a choice. Happy people have mastered the art of happiness by controlling the way they respond to what life throws at them. The quicker you figure this out, the sooner you’ll enjoy life. Oh, and if everyone’s happy with you, you’re doing something wrong.
    Rule n ° 41 Compliments : Compliments are vintage. Not that cool vintage that commands the respect of those both young and old, but that prehistoric vintage that smells old and seems outdated. Props to those who give props to those who deserve props, because far too many treat compliments like a kiss by someone with aggressive breath – hard to give.
    It’s necessary to acknowledge the greatness in others because flattery humbles both the giver and the receiver. Giving a compliment is simply stating the obvious with an expression of admiration. Admiration is part of the human spirit. We’re supposed to feel good when others look good and do well. A compliment can turn a bad time into a perfect moment. It can even save the life of someone reconsidering living. When we think of it like that, maybe we’ll be more generous giving others what they truly deserve – love.
    However, there is such a thing as overdoing it. Too many compliments can be an annoyance. Telling someone how great he or she looks five times in five minutes is aggressive and weird. Some compliments are inappropriate. Don’t compliment a young Lady for appearing older than she looks. And don’t compliment another Lady’s beau more than once. Use discernment.
    Rule n ° 43 If you don’t go on dates with the person you date then you’re not dating . Pretty simple, huh?
    Rule n ° 45 Humility : Stay humble. Loud arrogance is quiet insecurity. Sexy hardly speaks, and greatness doesn’t have to say it’s great. So walk gently leaving heavy footprints. Vanity is cheap concealer for the self-conscious. We see right through you.
    Having humility doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be your best, look your best and do your best. Just keep it Bereolaesque!
    Rule n ° 47 If you think being single sucks, it’s because you do . When you can’t stand your own company, no one else will either. Fall in love with yourself first.
    Rule n ° 49 Honesty : Everything that no one is saying needs to be said. There’s a thin line between tact and tolerance. There’s too much hypersensitivity and political correctness. A gentlewoman believes in acceptance, but she also believes in correction. She believes in tolerance, but she also believes in accountability. Not everyone is “hating” on you–someone is telling you the truth. And the truth changes things. Not every word spoken requires an apology.
    TRUTH WILL ALWAYS TRUMP WHAT YOU “THINK”
    Honesty is a foreign language. Not many can speak it, and hardly anyone understands it. A “friend” who doesn’t inform you of your ill behaviors is an enemy who doesn’t want to see you prosper. Speak truth now and hand out Band-Aids later. Growth isn’t always comfortable. You’ll grow weary running from the truth. Everything that’s in the dark must eventually come to the light.
    Rule n ° 51 Character : Your character will always speak louder than you do.
    Shh! Be quiet. Don’t tell anyone who you are. Show them. Character is when your conduct talks for you. Yes, you sin, but life makes room for error. It also makes room for you to get back to virtue. It’s the will to get back that reveals character. Character can’t be heard, so don’t listen for it. Observe. Watch what people say and tune into what they do. Character isn’t circumstantial - neither success nor failure adjusts it. Built from difficult and sometimes unpopular decision. Beneath any facade, this is truly who you are. You might look good on paper, but your character is you. Words can’t change that. Character will sleep with you at night and wake with you in the morning. It will exist as your reputation when