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actions and relationships. I want you to open to me and I want to give you everything, but I also want both of us to open, feel, and offer ourselves to everyone all day.

    I hope that together we can liberate our true hearts from our cages of fear. Then, our bodies can merge open in sexual delight and our hours can come and go as love all day.
    If you are like most women, you were born with a more feminine sexual essence. At heart, you are more identified with ever-changing life than with changeless death—as a child you enjoyed playing house more than playing war. You enjoyed playing with puppies and colors and make-up and flavors. You enjoyed getting clothing and jewelry—rather than weapons and games of challenge—for birthday presents. You loved to be seen, because you are identified with love’s light. Anything that adorns your light—sequins, sparkles, bangles—magnifies your happiness.
    As a young woman, you may have dreamt of masculine saviors: horses, pop stars, white knights—any animal or human, real or imaginary, that could take you somewhere new, somewhere magic. Deep in your heart, you felt that someday a man would see your true beauty, your true light, your boundless ocean of love, and take you to the place you always wanted to be: surrendered open like the sky filled with moonlight, taken by your beloved into the bright domain of love’s bliss.
    But at some point, you probably stopped trusting the yearning of your own feminine heart. You may have absorbed the anti-feminine attitude of your culture. Or possibly your family strongly emphasized masculine values.
    For one reason or another, you probably became convinced that it is better—stronger—to navigate for yourself, to take yourself somewhere rather than trust to be taken by love. You became suppressed in your desire to be seen and worshipped as love’s light. You came to believe that guiding your life’s direction is more important than trusting the fathomless love-wisdom that flows naturally from your deepest heart’s radiance.
    Maybe your parents found your little sister more pretty than you, so you protected your crushed heart with a shell of masculine ambition: “My little sister may be pretty, but I’m going to be a scientist!” Perhaps you felt how your mother was restricted and belittled by your father, so you protected your vulnerable heart with a shell of masculine control: “Nobody is going to tell me what to do. I’m going to be the captain of my own ship!”
    If you chose to be a scientist because you loved science, or you chose to navigate your own life because that was your greatest bliss, then such decisions would be healthy and heart fulfilling. But if you chose to be a scientist because your parents ignored your radiance and your heart was crushed, or if you chose to guide your own life because you didn’t want to be hurt like your mother was, then you have created shells built of fear rather than a life moved by the openness of love.
    As you grow from childhood to your teenage years, you may build yet another shell. You want boys to be interested in you. However, the attractive brightness of your feminine radiance remains hidden behind your shells of fear-based masculine directionality that surround your crushed and unacknowledged heart. So, on top of this acquired masculine shell of protection, you begin to create a shell of superficial feminine expression.
    You buy the jeans that all the popular girls at school are wearing, checking out your butt in the mirror, wondering if this will get the boys to want you. You spend hours purchasing and trying on not only clothing but also jewelry, fragrances, and make-up—not as loving adornments of your abundant radiance, but because you feel love lacking. You feel unseen and unworthy because the masculine shell you acquired as a child is hiding the full love and true shine of your heart.
    Your true feminine heart of vulnerable love-radiance—crushed or negated in