her patch and down towards her vagina. This will feel incredible for her and give her a powerful clitoral orgasm.
On later occasions, move your thumb up while moving your forefinger down, and then the thumb down and the forefinger up. It is kind of like rotating the clit. This may feel even better for her.
Then the next time you are with her, get her clit really excited and press your thumb and forefinger down hard in order to grab as much of her clit as possible. When she is really excited, her clit can actually take being handled more aggressively. Then pull the clit up in a direction away from her body and then down towards her body. She will instantly love this. It will feel as if she has a cock and it is getting jacked off. Of course, this will send her ballistic and give her a spectacular clitoral orgasm.
The Welcomed Method
I learned this from a sexuality research group in San Francisco called “The Welcomed Consensus.” You can find them at welcomed.com.
I viewed a video from them called “Deliberate Orgasm.” The guy in the video showed how you must directly touch the naked tip of the clitoris at its one o'clock position (as looking AT the clit) with the tip of your index finger. If you don’t understand that, you can just rub the very tip of the clit and you will pretty much get the same results.
In the video he demonstrated on a woman. He rubbed her for about 10 minutes. All the time she was orgasmic, but she never “came.” I would not recommend that. I have a variation to that below.
Have your woman lie on her back. Apply Astroglide lubricant to your hands and to her clitoris. Astroglide is a name brand lubricant. It can be found in most any drug store. You must avoid micro scratches.
You sit to her left side and place your left arm under her left leg. Put your left fingers under her ass and press your left thumb on her perineum (between her vagina and her anus.) This makes her feel secure and anchors the clitoris.
Then place the palm of your right hand on her pubic hair. Place the tip of your right index finger to the tip of her clitoris. If you prefer, you may use the tip of your middle finger. While the tip of your index finger barely touches the tip of her clit, you rub. The rubbing is to be done with the tip of the index finger pointing straight at the clit. The strokes are about one half inch and at a frequency of about 2 strokes per second.
Continue this stimulation. Remember, the tip of your finger should just barely touch the tip of her clit. This will feel so incredible for her.
Now here’s what you do to make it really powerful. You tell her to relax. You continue the stimulation while continually telling her to relax and just feel the pleasure.
She will be in continuous total ecstasy.
You can be sure that this is different than anything she has ever experienced before.
Even when she gets really close and wants to come, tell her not to. Lighten up on the stimulation if you have to. Tell her to relax and tell her to continue to enjoy the pleasure that you are giving her body. She will be begging you to let her come.
Then, after an appropriate amount of time, tell her the following:
You: “I love giving you pleasure. And in a moment, I am going to give you an orgasm. Do you want to have an orgasm?”
Her: “Oh God Yes!”
You: “How badly do you want to come?”
Her: “Oh God! So Bad!”
You: “When I say the words ‘Come Now’ you will instantly have an orgasm.”
Then you make the stroking firmer to give it more stimulation, and then you say to her in a commanding voice: “Come Now!”
She will have an explosive orgasm. While she is coming, further plant the command for her to come. This associates your voice, telling her to come, with her orgasm.
Here’s the key point: To her, from her perspective, it will appear as
if:
Her explosive orgasm was caused by YOUR COMMAND!
This demonstrates to her that her sexuality is brought to life when
she surrenders herself