this that made him respect and eventually adore her. He was impressed with her on every level he could imagine. He never grew tired of talking with her and exchanging ideas. The two of them added to each other's thoughts, spiraling concepts into more complete and delightful designs. Over time he grew to read the tea leaves better and to recognize the difference between a tentative approval and an outright endorsement of a project idea.
The first was a polite acceptance that inevitably would be reversed upon further review. He was a man who liked to make a decision and then make it happen. Barriers discovered were meant to be overcome through creative solutions and an undying adherence to the final product. Catherine never felt any decision was final and to her credit, most of her re-decisions were for the better. But not all. Hence, Steven made it a rule that no tree, once planted was allowed to be moved around like furniture. This rule was borne of a real experience. We will spare you of the detail and allow you to use your own imagination. It was worse than that.
For her part, Catherine enjoyed the task-sharing the two of them had developed. More than the guy taking out the trash and her doing the laundry, they found they were a complete duo on any project or endeavor they embarked upon. Thanksgiving dinners were unspoken ballets. Turkeys were basted by someone, the potatoes were mashed by him, the milk and butter and pepper and salt were added at the right time by her. The rolls found the oven at the right time and the dishes were cleaned on the fly. The meal was delivered and everyone went to bed, on time, with a clean kitchen.
Home improvement projects were also graceful ad-libs on the original concept. Colors changed, dimensions were adjusted and ideas grew along with the respect for each other. He admired her ability to make the tiny pieces come together and she appreciated his ability to stay on long tasks to bring them to completion. They knew that they made each other better.
It was this ying and yang that made them a great match. It is always an issue to balance the idea that couples should have things in common (birds of a feather flock together) with the old aphorism of "Opposites attract." While both must be true, to some extent to strike us as true, there is the obvious conflict in the two. Their conflicts with each other were few, while their differences were complementary. They were both fairly frugal, but aspired to greater things. As a result they saved some, bought cheap where it made no difference and adhered to the principle, for some things, that "You get what you paid for." So they decided that items like refrigerators and beds, which were used a lot each day, would be expensive high quality items, whereas a car or a truck, which were conveyances to get them from one point to another, merely needed to be reliable. While she did not want to scrimp on his clothing, she conceded that dressing an auditor in very expensive clothes was like gilding the lily. They both felt that dressing her well was money spent "casting their bread unto the water." Through this cherry picked list of sayings, they made their way through life and this eventually led them to an anxiety point.
After the kids had moved out, and his career involved more and more, (nearly exclusively in fact) trips out of town, Catherine had insisted it was time to move from the East Phoenix area to Scottsdale where she worked each day. The trip, due to increased traffic, had gotten harder and harder each year as she was drawn into the higher volumes and the heavy traffic was always the direction she was going. By the time of their move, she was in the car several hours each day. She somehow sold him on the idea that this would save them
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