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change in working hours, conditions
    20
    Major change in church activities
    19
    Major change in social activities
    18
    Purchasing a new car, or other big item
    17
    Major change in sleeping habits
    16
    Major change in number of family get-togethers
    15
    Major change in eating habits
    15
    Vacation
    13
    Christmas or holiday observance
    12
    Minor violations of the law
    11
    Scoring
    Below 150 = 30 percent chance of il ness or accident within two years 151–299 = 50 percent chance of il ness or accident over 300 = 80 percent chance of il ness or accident
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    02.   What the Hell Is Your Problem? (Maybe It’s You) According to Holmes and Rahe’s statistical prediction model, a score of 150 or less means a relatively low (about 30
    percent) probability of stress-related illness (including heart attack, cancer, stroke, and so on). A score of 151 to 299 implies a 50 percent probability, and a score of 300 or above implies an 80 percent probability of experiencing a health change—usually a negative change. Obviously, these predictions are not absolute. Stress and the resulting health problems are the consequence of many different factors, including how significant those life events are to you, your personal resiliencies, and the support available through family, work, and friends. Taking this quiz, however, can give you some insight into the potential risks to your health and well-being. If your score is high on this test, you are likely—unless you’re extraordinarily well put together—to be cranky at work! When you’re irritable, you can’t deal well with anyone, but you are especially at a deficit in dealing with those who get under your skin.
    The simple fact is that working with other people remains inherently stressful. In fact, people problems are now the top cause for workplace stress, so you’re not alone, according to ComPsych, a Chicago-based employee assistance program. Their StressPlus survey for the second half of 2006 shows 30
    percent of those surveyed citing “people issues” as the cause of stress, replacing workload for the first time.
    Many people, however, continue to think that work should be stress free. One of my favorite cases is one that a guy in California won in the late 1980s because he claimed he felt uncomfortable at work. In the late 1990s (after a decade of too many silly workplace cases), the same court heard a case from another man who tried to claim that he felt uncomfortable at work. The court said something like: “Get out of here. You’re supposed to feel uncomfortable at work. That’s why we call it work!”
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    Before you can begin to decide if it’s your coworker who is causing the problem, or it’s your own attitude that needs adjusting, you need an accurate assessment of your own stress level. You also need compassion for the stress your coworker may be facing.
    An insightful exercise is to take the stress test for someone else. Based upon what you know about the major life events that person has experienced during the past year, where do you believe he or she falls on the stress test levels? If both you and that person are off the charts, you can see how easily collisions can occur. ending Bad days Forever
    Ever had a bad day? Perhaps a little too much stress at home, or road rage on the way to work, and then bam, first thing, you run into Mr. Least Favorite employee at the coffee pot, and he has just taken the last cup without making more!
    Sometimes, however, we have not just bad days but terrible, horrible days. Days when our coworkers or bosses are engaging in behavior that’s not just difficult but over the line into workplace legal or policy violations. How so you know when someone’s way out of bounds? The next chapter will help. your
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