“Hold your horses, let’s stick with the plan. We can dowhat you want later.” But no matter what your massager’s reaction is, it’s worth getting your desires off your chest so they don’t spiral through your mind in an endless feedback loop of Should I say something? Would my partner be up for it? Say your piece and see what happens.
RELAX AND ENJOY— It might seem odd that guilt may crop up during a massage, but it’s fairly common to feel a little bad about kicking back while someone toils away pampering you like some modern-day sex slave. Or maybe you’re uncomfortable being the center of so much attention, or worried that since your massager has focused 100 percent on you sans distractions, he or she is finally noticing your cellulite, or your hairy testicles, or how your nostrils flare when you’re really enjoying yourself.
Oftentimes people will attempt to quell these feelings in a funny way: by reaching out and simultaneously touching their partner to even the playing field a little. If you suspect your motivations are along these lines, remember: (a) your massager is not noticing your cellulite, hairy testicles, flaring nostrils, or any other flaw you’re obsessing about, (b) you’ll have plenty of time later to return the favor by giving your partner a massage, and (c) your partner is probably enjoying the act of giving all on its own. Why provide a distraction? Instead allow yourself to indulge in the sensations your partner is creating without worrying about anyone but little old you.
A HEAD-TO-TOE GUIDE TO
ALL YOUR HOT SPOTS
MONICA: Now, everybody knows the basic erogenous zones. You got [starts labeling her diagram] one, two, three, four, five, six, and seven … okay, now, most guys will hit one, two, and three and then go to seven and set up camp.
CHANDLER: And that’s bad?
RACHEL: Well, if you go to Disneyland, you don’t spend the whole day on the Matterhorn.
—FRIENDS
L ike rock stars, genitals get tons of attention. But let’s take a moment to consider the rest of the body. As the gals on Friends so aptly point out, hot spots galore cover the expanse from head to toe. In fact, we’d say they undershot the mark, since by our count there are a whole lot more than seven erogenous zones worth visiting.Given that your hands can flip each switch in a variety of ways, the turn-on possibilities are nearly infinite.
To get you started, this chapter contains more than fifty of our hottest techniques. Feel free to pick and choose which body parts and moves you want to try. Or, if you really want to impress your partner, follow this chapter step-by-step to treat your partner to the ultimate full-body massage. Done in its entirety, this rubdown is the perfect warm-up to more amazing antics. Try it and you may be surprised how many ooohs, ahhhs , and omigod’s ensue before you have even laid a hand on the genitals—or how explosive things will be once you do reach for the ultimate prize.
REV YOUR ENGINES: WHERE TO BEGIN
Ask your partner to lie facedown. Many of the body’s large muscle groups lie along the backside—by relaxing them, you create the perfect foundation on which to build arousal later. While you can start your sensual massage at the head or the feet (feel free to ask your partner’s preference), we’re going to start at the head and work our way down. For most of these moves, you can either stand or kneel to your partner’s side or straddle your partner’s butt, a much sexier alternative. Remind your partner to breathe deeply before you get going. Here are some areas that are begging to be touched, and how to rub them right.
The Scalp
The scalp is rich in nerve endings, and it doesn’t take a neurosurgeon to know that the more nerve endings there are, the greater the pleasure potential. To start firing things up, place your fingertips along the hairline at the base of your partner’s skull and start massaging the scalp in dime-sized circles as if you were washing your