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men,
not
for other women. Men don’t care for flat shoes, even if they are Chanel or Tory Burch; they want you to look feminine in heels, as high as you can stand!
    We understand you may have a unique style and we respectthat, but in terms of dressing for dating, we feel that a certain look—or uniform, if you will—works best: tops that show some skin, short skirts or tight skinny jeans, and heels. Pant suits and long, flowing scarves that cover up your cleavage are great for business or having lunch with the ladies, but for guys, you have to look hot, hot, hot! Not slutty—sexy!
    Kristi, a thirty-year-old pharmacist, contacted us after her two-year relationship ended with her boyfriend not proposing. In addition to going over all
The Rules
she broke, we went over her clothes, too. She sported a preppy look: crewneck T-shirts and button-down shirts with knee-length skirts and flats. Her hair was pulled back either in a ponytail or bun. Everything she wore was expensive but boring. She looked like she was going to the library! If she was going to date again, she needed to look hot. We showed her black V-neck, scoop neck, and halter tops, white denim and black spandex skirts, and four-inch-heeled sandals from her favorite store. She had photographs taken after her makeover and shopping spree that actually made her look like a model—she couldn’t believe the difference! She is now dating several men she met online and at speed-dating events, and one of them invited her to his sister’s wedding. She already knows what she’ll be wearing: a short gold sequin tank dress with her four-inch heels. We rest our case!
    Experts say you should go through your closet every two years and give away or throw out any clothes that are not sexy or in style. We agree! The same way you should quickly move on from a relationship that’s not working is the way you should say good-bye to boring or old clothes, shoes, and bags. Many clients have asked us to help them clean out their closets during makeover consultations—a CUAO does not hang on to frumpy clothes! No one has ever looked back.
Accessories
    Again, women have their own personal style. But we think that any
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Girl’s best accessory is big (three-inch) hoop earrings in silver or gold. It’s a youthful look with long, straight hair and the right makeup. Little or big diamond studs (real or fake) are great when you are engaged or married, but they are too dainty and suburban-looking when you are single. To catch a man’s attention you need big, dangling earrings, not ones that get lost in your hair. Big hoops scream
Vavoom!
    Another great accessory is a chunky gold watch. It’s bold, modern, and reeks of self-confidence. In fact, a big watch and hoop earrings are about all you need to look hot! Let a man buy you a necklace or bracelet—and eventually a diamond ring. These two simple accessories may sound trendy, but they’re not. We’ve been telling our clients to wear them for the last twenty years—they’re tried and true. Brands may come and go, but this sophisticated look hasn’t changed. Don’t ask, because we can’t explain it; we just know it works.
    Big sunglasses and the au courant bag are also smart investments. Men may not know Payless from Prada, but they will notice if you are wearing a popular sunglass frame or a cool handbag. So go online or pick up magazines like
InStyle
or
Vogue
and copy whatever celebrities are wearing, but do so within your budget. Wearing narrow or aviator frames when the style is oversized Jackie O or Victoria Beckham–type sunglasses will make you seem out of touch. Similarly, if slouchy, oversized bags are in, you should not be wearing a small purse or fanny pack.
    Men want to feel like they are dating a model or celebrity, so look like one!

Rule #3 ____________
Don’t Talk to or Text a Guy First
    I N OUR FIRST book, we told you not to speak to guys first—not even an innocent “Hi” or “What time is it?” Doing so