kindling and, like a nuclear reactor, can keep producing energy for an ex- tended period of time.
Y First Step Z
Thefirststepinhavinganinstantorgasmisrealizingthatitispossible. If you’ve never heard of something or considered it a possibility, that thing has no place in your mind. It just doesn’t exist. Your mind is filled with symbols and trig- gers to other symbols encompassing everything you have learned or imag- ined, and if you have never heard of instantaneous orgasmic response then to you it doesn’t exist. In order to even entertain a new idea, one has to first be made aware of it. It’s kind of like when people used to think the world was flat. If you had told them that it was round they would have thought you were crazy and probably a troublemaker. Or it’s like when Galileo tried to convince peo- ple that Copernicus was correct in thinking the earth revolved around the sun instead of vice versa. Despite recanting this belief in the face of the Spanish In- quisition he was placed under house arrest for years and narrowly missed be- ing executed for his radical ideas.
Even better than reading or hearing about the possibility of an immedi- ate orgasmic response is getting to see one for yourself. As mentioned, we give live demonstrations showing that a person can reach an orgasmic state very quickly. We also do hands-on work (pardon the pun) with individual students and sometimes with couples, usually in our apartment. Both Vera and I are al- ways present for these person-to-person sessions. There are quite a few peo- ple now living on our planet who can orgasm deliberately from the first stroke and who even teach this technique, so the idea is slowly spreading (just like any useful meme or information virus, as Richard Dawkins would call it). The tipping point has not yet been reached, so the idea of instant orgasm remains unknown to most. Hopefully this book will help spread the word.
When people see it with their own eyes, they are usually convinced that coming on the first stroke is a real phenomenon. Some still may think that it is some kind of trick or fakery, but at least they have opened their minds to the possibility of the experience, and that is a step in the right direction. They have created a symbol for the occurrence in their minds, so at least they can think about it.
We recently met some women who said that IO and EMO are impossible for them, yet they had never witnessed either one! That kind of negative preju-
dice can keep people from experiencing something fantastic. The positive news is that at least now they have been exposed to the concepts. Although they haven’t embraced the possibility for themselves, by having heard of the phenomena they are ahead of where they were.
Y Check It Out for Yourself Z
Once people see that instant orgasm is not only possible but fairly easy to achieve, many will try it. As we’ve said, it takes some practice to change old habits—to switch from tensing up and thus not feeling much during a sensual encounter to relaxing and feeling as much as one can. Therefore, the second step in creating an IO is to practice doing it. You can practice by yourself or with a partner. Perhaps it is best to try both ways. The next chapter describes several ways to practice by yourself, and later chapters detail techniques for practicing with a partner.
When you receive pleasure from either your own hand or that of a part- ner, it is important to approve of all the sensations you feel. That is, don’t judge any feeling, or yourself, as wrong or inadequate; just be aware of the sensation without evaluating it in any way. Know that the intensity of the sensation will be less powerful on the first stroke than it will as you continue the stimulation. The intensity gets stronger as you go along, and the best and fastest way to get there is by approving of what you are experiencing right now, not by tensing or ignoring the present moment for the hope of coming in the future.