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table next to hers came over and gently tapped her on the shoulder, and said, "I am very sorry to interrupt you, but I'm afraid you're either going to have to stop doing that with your foot, or knowingly continue to drive me crazy"
What was interesting is that he didn't continue to make conversation; in fact, he left almost immediately The woman wasn't wearing what one would call a sexy outfit, nor could he even see her face from where he sat. What turned him on was the sheer consciousness with which she twirled her shoe. To him, that reeked of sensuality I've come to find out that many men feel the same way. We're so often completely unaware of how the simplest of gestures affect those who are watching us.
Secrets from Lou's Archive
However demure men may want us to appear in public, they want us unrestrained in private. In fact, it's precisely this dichotomy that drives them wild. The more collected our public persona, the more unrestrained our private one can be.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not going to tell you you're mistaken about men being visual creatures. They are typically much more so than us. But their desire for, and even sometimes preoccupation with, the perfect female body takes place before the sexual encounter. Once you're there, the only thing that really matters about your body to them is that it expresses a willingness to thoroughly and freely enjoy the experience. While making love with an enthusiastic partner, men don't have the wherewithal to focus on imperfections, because they perceive what they have as perfect.
F eeling Beautiful: I t's Up to You
In spite of the knowledge that your free sensual spirit will have him thinking you're beautiful, what ultimately matters most is how you feel about yourself. It is only appropriate to dress or act a certain way to please your man when it's your choice—and if, in so doing, you derive at least as much pleasure for yourself. If garter belts, thongs, and teddies aren't your style, don't wear them, and don't be fooled into thinking the stereotypical picture of a woman in black lace and heels is the only one that works. I know many men who think otherwise.
One man, a lawyer from Boston, told me that what gets him most excited is when his wife (a history professor) puts on his boxer shorts and tank top. "When she's wearing that outfit, I go crazy!" In fact, I have it on very good authority that when women wear jeans and a T-shirt it is every bit as much a turn-on for some men as a garter belt and push-up bra. I've even known men who simply cannot resist a woman in soft flannel pajamas. Above all else, you need to be comfortable with your presentation. Your comfort, both in mind and body, is the key to your sexual freedom.
The only thing you both have to be in bed is clean. None of us should have to be subjected to a sexual partner who isn't. I'm not just talking about your private parts. I can't tell you how regularly this comes up in both the men's and women's seminars. Hair, ears, fingernails, toenails, and feet are often overlooked and left unscrubbed in the haste to get into bed. I would never have felt the need to state the obvious in a book like this if didn't come up in nearly every seminar. Evidently, we tend to assume that we all groom ourselves in the same way. Also, we are horrified at the thought of discussing the subject: to tell a lover that you are turned off by his lack of cleanliness is uncomfortable for both of you. But there is no excuse for having to feel "dirtied" by someone with whom you're going to be intimate. Anyone willing to share himself or herself in this manner deserves a partner who is well groomed. If you're too tired for another shower or bath, you're too tired for sex.
And while we're on the subject of cleanliness, I just want to mention a word about the natural odor of the human body. I understand that some men and women prefer to go au naturel and not wear deodorant, but I think you're taking a risk here. Let me recount a story of