cling to each other. Let your breathing synchronize. Feel the connection of your chakras.
KISSING AS AN ART FORM
Kissing is a wonderful form of loveplay because it stimulates so many different energy centers. It’s a sweet expression of affection that connects with the heart. Your vision, mind, and third eye are totally focused on your lover. It turns many lovers on with resulting hardness and wetness that encourages the mood for heavier exchange.
Kissing all parts of the body can be divine play. Try lightly kissing your partner’s chakras beginning with the 7th (at the top of the head) and ending with the 1st (the perineum.)
AWAKENING YOUR BELOVED’S SENSES
Orgasmic energy is all about staying in the body, opening the senses, and feeling the ecstasy. There are many ways to increase awareness of your body and open the senses. You can dance. You can eat sensual foods. You can walk in the forest. You can meditate.
You can blindfold your beloved and titillate them with tastes, smells, touch, and sounds. Then you can remove the blindfold, and offer glorious sights as you slowly and sensuously reveal your naked body.
Ever tried acting out a silent fantasy in front of your lover? How about pleasuring yourself while your lover is tied down?
The range of possibilities for building anticipation is enormous. Use your imagination, and surprise your beloved. Your loveplay will never get old or stale.
EXERCISE: MOOD DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
Iplan to do the following to create a sacred space before we make love…
Here’s how I intend to heighten intimacy and connection during our loveplay…
Here’s how I’ll experiment with awakening my beloved’s senses…
TALKING ABOUT SEX
EXCHANGING INFORMATION
We already discussed communication when we prescribed titillation, flirtation, and intimacy. Communication is also essential for exchanging information so that you can enhance your own and your partner’s pleasure.
Learning to talk with your partner about sex requires guts and practice. Sometimes, women want to protect their man’s ego, and this makes them too polite. Often, they’re unsure if they even have the right to ask for anything other than what they’re getting. Too many men don’t know how, why, or when they want something different.
It’s great to create an intention together to be able to talk about sex openly and honestly. Talk about your fears. This is a major frontier for most couples.
That’s partly why we urge you to talk before during, and after each practice and lovemaking encounter no matter how long you’ve been together. Don’t worry if you feel you’re not eloquent at first. Whatever you do is good for intimacy and will help your communication skills to grow.
It can be helpful to coach or redirect your partner while you’re physically intimate. If you make an agreement beforehand about how you want to communicate during sex, it can be much less challenging.
No one likes to feel criticized or put down, most particularly while in bed with a lover.
Hopefully, you’re taking advantage of the discussion questions we’ve included after each major section. These are primarily designed to encourage this whole process of talking freely about sex. After reading, think back about your reactions, write your answers to the questions, and share with your partner. Gradually, you’ll transform the intimacy of your connection and create the foundation to transmute subtle energy into awesome ecstasy.
BE REAL
The single biggest communication foul-up is when one or both partners aren’t completely forthcoming and authentic with each other. In less formal words, this means acting phony. Of course, when you speak, it’s important to be loving and gentle with your words, rather than accusatory or judgmental.
Do you:
Feel that your beloved is responsible for satisfying you in any way?
Believe that your partner is supposed to automatically know how to satisfy you?
Act passive when you’re not getting what