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like me, a Dominant with over thirty-five years of experience in
this lifestyle and in these kinds of relationships, thinks and feels and
acts.
    And, to be brutally honest,I wanted absolutely
no part of that.
    I have always been an exceedingly private person,
and not without good reason .  At various times in my life, I
have been targeted in one way or another by criminals, enemy soldiers, union
thugs, law enforcement officers, political activists, crooked lawyers,
newspaper reporters, and even jealous husbands.   Some of those people
pointed real guns loaded with real bullets, at me.  
Others used less obvious, but even more insidious methods that, frankly, made
me nostalgic for gunplay .  I learned some important lessons from
all of that, the most valuable being:  Don’t make yourself a target.  
    And now, I was being asked to do just that.  
    My immediate reaction was to simply dismiss the
idea, outright.  I really did not want to make any part of this
book all about me.  I’ve spent my entire life playing my cards
close to the vest.  I wasn’t about to suddenly start playing them face up
on the table.  Paranoia may not be a winning strategy for everyone ,
but it’s always worked pretty well for me.
    I promised her that I’d at least think about it . 
And, I did.
    After about a week of thinking about it, I
realized she was right.  There really was only one thing I
could offer to my readers that no one else could, and that was me - or more accurately, my own unique experiences and thoughts.  The rest of
it, anyone could write.   I gave it a little more thought,
and finally arrived at what I believe is a reasonable compromise between “The BDSM Textbook That Anyone Could Have Written” and “Mike Makai’s
XXX Memoirs.”
    At the end of each chapter, I’ve added a section
called “My Two Cents. ”  There, you’ll find personal anecdotes,
opinions or reflections culled from my lifetime accumulation of unique
experiences in the D/s and BDSM lifestyles.  The stories range from
pleasant recollections to painful memories; but they are true, and they are
told from the heart. 
    If you prefer your BDSM relationship handbooks to be
more scholarly than memoirish , feel free to skip merrily past
those parts and on to the next chapter.  Seriously , I won’t mind.  Not
one teensy-weensy bit.  

My
Two Cents on Being a Dominant
    What kind of a Dominant am I?    My
first impulse has always been to categorize myself as an Ineffable Dom ,
but I’ve recently come to realize that I’ve always done so not so muchbecause my style of dominance can’t be described , but because I
just don’t like having to describe it .
    If I hadtocategorize myself, I would
be very tempted to create a whole new classification for myself and the
relatively small number of other Dominants who are like me.  I
would designate it the White Knight Dom .  Yes,I know what you’re thinking.  You’re thinking that a person would have to be
pretty darn full of himself to think he can willy-nilly create a whole
new category of Dominant just for himselfand, in fact, you would be absolutely right.   Fortunately, when it comes to being full of myself, I am eminently qualified .
    The White Knight Dom wants to right wrongs, slay
dragons, rescue beautiful women, treat his submissive like a princess, and
become King – and he wants to do it all before lunch.  He is driven by a
deep sense of chivalry and altruism that transcends what he considers to be the
sordid and tawdry business of self-gratification.  The White Knight lives to find solutions to your problems.  He gets off on learning
what makes you tick.  He truly isn’t happy unless you’re happy. 
Where other Dominants might seek out submissives for their own gratification,
the White Knight seeks them out because that’s what a White Knight does as
he solves riddles, completes quests, and slays monsters.  For the White
Knight, conduct and protocol count for a lot.  This