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approaches twenty complete strangers and commands each
of them to drop to their knees and submit to him that nineteen of them will slap
him silly , but the twentieth just might do it.  He knows that
eventually, he will find someone who is willing to buy into his delusion and feed it , and that’s all that matters. 
    If you happen to be that unlucky person who has
bought into his delusion, he also knows that separating you from the D/s
community-at-large will insulate you from dissenting voices which might warn
you about him.  He knows he is shunned by others in the lifestyle but,
then again, what else would you expect from such riff-raff?   He knows all of this, because he’s seen it work for him time and again, and it’s hard
to argue with success .  Anyone who steadfastly refuses to recognize
his innate superiority is simply a bit-player or antagonist in a grand
drama that is played out on center-stage in his own little parallel universe .  
    You might be tempted to pity the
self-delusional Tin Pot Dom until you realize the full magnitude of the damage that his kind does to submissives, to the D/s lifestyle, and to society in
general.   As a result of this person’s delusional and often paranoid
behavior, submissives often end up stripped of their dignity, sense of
self-worth, self-confidence and trust.  Others in the lifestyle are forced
constantly to defend our way of life because of the widespread stereotypes and
misconceptions that result from the actions of these bad apples.  Even
worse, there are those high-profile, extreme cases where the worst of these
self-delusional , criminally insane individuals kidnap people and keep
them chained in their basement or bury them in their backyards. 
    Now, before I am accused of engaging in fear-mongering, or the wanton and indiscriminate slander of all the poor, innocent,
harmlessly self-deluded Tin Pot Doms everywhere, I hope you’ll allow me to just
say that I did not mean to imply that all self-deluded Tin Pot
Dominants are psycho loons .  I meant to imply that most of
them are.
    Alrighty, then.  Let the accusations fly.
    There you have it, my perspective on what I consider
to be the eight major categories of Dominants and a ninth for the
TPDs who are role players or self-delusional.  My perspectives on this and
other D/s lifestyle topics have been shaped and impacted by thirty-five years
of D/s relationships, a lifetime of unusual life experiences, and an admittedly
eccentric world-view.  I suppose the key to getting your money’s worth
from this book will be your ability to take from it what is useful to your
relationships and activities, and to simply disregard the rest.  There
isn’t much in the D/s lifestyle that can be characterized as right or wrong . 
It is either useful to you, or it is not. 
    Frankly, I fully expect that some of the things I
say in this book are going to cause some people to foam at the mouth and
perhaps even say not-nice things about me.  That’s okay.  
It’s all part of the process .  I’d be far more concerned if
everyone were agreeing with me, since that’s usually my first clue that
I’m dead wrong about something.

Peeking
Into My Head
    Speaking of being wrong , I am truly fortunate
to be able to count among my dearest friends my former collared submissive, a
woman who has turned tactfully telling me that I’m wrong into a virtual art
form .  She has been an invaluable aide and adviser in the production
of this book from concept to completion, and I trust her instincts and opinions
without reservation.  So, when she ever-so-tactfully told me well
into the writing of the book that I was doing it wrong , I listened.
    She told me that my readers wanted more than
an informative or even entertaining book about D/s and BDSM
relationships.  Anyone could write that book, she
said.  What they wanted , she assured me, was the chance to be voyeurs.  They wanted a peek into my head .  They wanted to know how
someone