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politically incorrect can follow it up with “Oops, sorry, you know what I can be like. What I meant to say is......” And they can get out of a potentially serious scrape that way.
If your co-workers could be trusted to know your diagnosis without using it against you, this is one of the many reasons why disclosure would be a good thing. If people don’t know you have AS, they may be less quick to forgive and forget. (Disclosure is discussed at length in the chapter “To Tell Or Not to Tell.”)
Be yourself, but as far as topics of conversation go, “when in doubt, leave it out” is probably the best advice. Understand that the things you like to talk about are not necessarily the things that others do.
Try to find a mentor, someone whom you can bounce ideas off, whether it’s a brother or sister, friend, or colleague. They can help you learn the limits of social topics appropriate for your workplace. Those things may vary somewhat depending on whether you work in a coffee house or an insurance company, but there are still limits if you want to avoid putting your foot in your mouth.
Think about the qualities you like in others (e.g., tact, humor, gentleness) and what you don’t, and hold yourself to that same standard.
Don’t overcompensate by being “too nice” just to make friends if it is not sincere. That will catch up with and exhaust you if you attempt it for too long.
Accessing emotions can be learned, especially if one is supported and in a loving environment where it is safe to do so. Try talking about how you feel with someone you trust.
Try writing down your thoughts and feelings to better understand yourself: your likes, dislikes, positive and negative thoughts, and motivations. Journal your experiences at work and in life.
For those with spiritual inclinations, the Buddhist/eastern practice of “mindfulness” to foster empathy and compassion for others has been mentioned as a good technique for those with AS, as is the Christian “golden rule” of doing unto others as you would have done unto you.
     

To employers and advocates:
     
Don’t take it personally if your AS employee says something insensitive. They are compassionate; they just don’t know how to show it sometimes.
They may just have an excellent point if you can overlook the delivery.
Be patient and have a sense of humor. The brain is a flexible organ and is constantly making new connections and experiencing revelations. Social skills can be acquired, at least to some extent.
If you don’t have the time or desire to mentor this employee, perhaps someone in the office, someone who has an abundance of people skills and tact, and who is completely nonjudgmental, can give them a few pointers.
If they have been a bit callous, or un-empathetic, take them aside and give them a working example or anecdote they can relate to rather than telling them how they “should” feel.
If they are about to make a political blunder, try to explain the possible consequences logically, as if discussing future chess moves, rather than making them feel bad or inept.
     

    Think about why you feel compassion towards a film or other fictional character but not a real person.
    Who is more important?

CHAPTER 6
Please Do NOT Fill in the Blank
    E motional detachment doesn’t just extend to words; an AS person’s facial expression may be blank at times. Their face won’t always match the way that they feel; nor will their expression be what one might expect in a given situation. This is a hallmark of Asperger’s Syndrome and is part of the diagnostic criteria for AS:
.... marked impairment in the use of multiple nonverbal behaviors such as eye-to-eye gaze, facial expression, body postures, and gestures to regulate social interaction. (APA 2000)
“My facial expressions don’t always match the way I’m feeling.”
    - SCOTT
    Having impaired or limited facial expression does not mean a person with Asperger’s is always blank, they may at times be quite