happening that I am not one hundred percent happy about.
For ten years I flew around the world (I don’t know how many times), the majority of the time flying
economy class and going straight to work after 26 hours of travel, feeling extremely jetlagged and tired.
I’ve sat next to people who have fallen asleep and dribbled on my shoulder and almost snored the plane
down. I’ve been vomited on by babies and sat next to children who have screamed the whole trip. I’ve sat
next to people who want to talk your legs off when you are really tired and also people who just don’t
want to talk at all. It’s been interesting to say the least and a lot of fun sometimes, but also exhausting.
In the last few years since I’ve been working with Victoria’s Secret I now get to travel business or first
class and I can’t tell you how fortunate I feel. I realise that a lot of people never get a chance to fly, let
alone fly first class! I am grateful for the opportunities and experiences I have had.
A lot of girls out there strive to look like models. I think there is no such thing as looking like a model.
Most of you would be surprised by how many different shapes, sizes and looks you find with women in
the modelling industry. And there’s a big difference between the models you see in the magazines and
what we actually look like in real life. Models don’t wake up looking like they stepped off a magazine
spread, or appear as fresh after a long, tiring day.
We go through hours of getting hair and makeup done as well as picking the most flattering outfit for our
body type. Some people may be closer to the current idea of beauty but we still have freckles in odd
places, dimples where we might not want them, and body parts we would like to change. There is no such
thing as being picture perfect. Ultimately we are our harshest critics. Often we see our imperfections as
limiting when others don’t even notice them. If you can give up ‘trying to look good’ or ‘trying to avoid
looking bad’ and just be authentically who you really are, a new level of freedom and self-expression
will emerge. You get to be ‘real’ not only with others, but most importantly with yourself.
Try your best not to judge others. Judging people or feeling as though people are judging you are
challenges worth overcoming. Sometimes people find it hard to believe that there’s more to me than what
they see on the outside. Part of my challenge to remain true to myself has been learning not to
overcompensate for the preconceptions others might have about me.
It is easy to fall into the trap of judging someone based on your own ideas about what you feel others
‘should’ be like, but in that process you fail to see who a person really is. Instead of judging people I try
to take time out to get to know and to speak with them. If people take the time to look beyond the outside
they quite often find a different kind of person on the inside.
Fashion vs. style… For me, fashion and style are two separate things. Style is how you express your
unique individuality; it’s about the relationship you have with yourself. Fashion, on the other hand, is all
about the clothes and their relationship to the world or the moment. So while I’m surrounded by fashion in
my day-to-day life, I also have my own sense of style. Fashion is great but I believe style forms part of
your identity; the inner you expressed to the outer world.
Being beautiful on the outside doesn’t mean you auto–matically love who you are. Have you ever met
people who seem to have it all but are never truly happy? You could be extremely attractive and still feel
insecure, judged and be a victim of self-criticism. Treasuring yourself is about changing limiting and
negative thoughts. It’s about being able to say, ‘I love and approve of myself’.
It’s not the way we look on the outside that matters, it’s the way we feel on the inside that counts. It