who gloat over your glory, and yet, who do not know your story. The audacity that the grace of God downloaded into our lives, the mindset for success, the power to do and achieve, to dream bigger and afresh; to hold God accountable to deliver his promises over our lives, and the assurance that my wife and I were going to live our best life and rise to the top no matter the odds or what it takes was borne about this time.
The Night Is Always Darker Before Day Break
In the following months we passed through the valley and shadow of past due bills, and late payments; storms and fires of financial disaster and the “terror of calls” from the collection agencies, which I will never forget. I saw first-hand, that there was nothing good and ‘Godful’ about poverty and a life of struggle. We lost one of our cars to repossession as I personally drove it back to the dealership followed with many other great losses. I hated poverty with everything within me. At one point when the heat was so intense, I began to blame myself and question why I was in this mess in the first place. I saw and experienced what poverty and pressure can do on our psych. We were leaving on unemployment checks. Things were not adding up at all. Then, I was beginning to re-think and re-consider what I have been taught over the years to be the pathway to success. Get a job! Keep the job! Retire from the job or die while you are a loyal employee. In one of those dark nights before our day break, I pressured my wife to leave our new found business in my care and management and go back and pick up her bedside nursing job at one of the hospitals she once worked as a registered nurse in Orange County, California.
Interestingly enough, the hospital was very willing to rehire my wife according to her terms—full time, per diem, or part time because of her big heart for patients care, her team spirit and exceptional career skills and qualifications. I will always remain thankful to God, that for the first time in our marital life, my wife was very determined to not listen to me, her parents, or my parents and defied every reasonable argument, logic, counsel, or prayer to go back to pick up a paid job as a registered nurse in any hospital whatsoever, no matter the pay package. She stubbornly and sternly resisted the whole idea, as if it was a deadly virus! She had other great ideas. She reminded me that God has always been bigger than our problems and knew what God wanted for our lives. She refused my counsels and hated to discuss the matter. For the very first time and thankfully, the very last time in our relational life, we had a quarrel we could not settle within 24 hours.
Be Stubborn For Your Success
My wife was very stubborn for our success. She chose to stay away from bedside nursing career even in the middle of a deep recession in the U.S when hospitals were not hiring nurses. She automated her mind to work for our success in the promised power of God’s word to supply our needs according to his riches in glory. One of those days, my wife reminded me one of the vows I once made to myself that as long as I live and as God gives me the grace, I was not going to be poor, or struggle through life to make a living. At one point, we had to temporarily pull our children away from the private early childhood learning education they were enrolled because we could no longer afford to pay their fees. It was terrible! I could have given into bitterness. I had every legitimate reason to become desperate and depressed; and yet, I decided to choose joy and success.
“Those who are not stubborn for their own success will not achieve excellence.”
I chose to see the brighter side of life. I chose joy, thankfulness, peace, love, and happiness over bitterness and decided that each of those unpleasant days was going to be lived with a purpose and direction and for the best too. It is for this reason that I strongly believe in determination because according to Mario