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irritating. Other times it’s mind-blowing, heart-opening, and hot. The former is just as much a victory as the latter. What you will learn is how to stay open for both.
    This is not to say you can’t spend time investigating the possibility of sex as a science. Hey, if that’s what youwant to do, I say go for it. There are plenty of sex manuals out there that will teach you positioning, technique, etiquette, and how to have and give a conventional climax every time. But these books are like the recipes I learned in Home Ec class. They explain sex from the outside in, rather than teaching you how to experience sex from the inside out. This book, and the practice of OM, is about the art. You’ll get a core technique, but in this world, technique will only take you so far. I’ll let you in on a bunch of sex secrets I’ve learned over the years, but after that the ball is in your court. It’s what you put into it that counts.
    The good news is that Slow Sex simplifies things. It throws out all expectation about what her orgasm should look like and how he is going to give it to her. It takes the pressure off, for both men and women. It makes room for everyone and every possibility. Whether you’ve ever had a traditional climax or not, orgasm awaits you.
    One more confession, which you’ve probably already surmised. This book is about sex, sure. But on a different level, this book is actually about your life . It’s about learning a new way of operating in the world, which in turn allows for new ways of relating to other people and your life as a whole. It’s about putting down roots. Learning how to feel your own body. Learning how to connect with other people. And it’s about letting go of expectations and instead making room for every possibility. In a nutshell, this book is about turning your life into a work of art. It just so happens that the medium we’re going to be using—the magic potion that will get you there—is sex. Because if there’s one thing I’ve discovered on my own journey, it’s that sex is like New York: if you can make it there, you can make it anywhere .
“With the OMing practice I’m able to really feel what’s inside of me. I love what’s inside of me, and I want to feel more and more and more. My orgasm really comes out during OM. Then, when I’m having sex, I’m feeling more all the time. Which is a relief, because my biggest fear was that I wouldn’t ever be able to feel sex again.”
—Annika, 37
    Now, don’t get me wrong. If straight-up better sex is what you’re looking for, Slow Sex offers that, too. It’s one of the side effects of coming back into your body and into relationship with your world. When you strip sex down, pay attention to sensation, and ask for what you desire, you can expect richer, more satisfying orgasms; a deeper, more nourishing connection with your partner; and improved relationships with everyone in your life. In just a few minutes a day, you can learn how to live—how to make the most of your one and precious life! How you can get inside it, be a part of it, feel intimate with the world in a whole new way. It’s a promise I’ve seen come to fruition in the lives of too many students to count. I know the same is available here for you, too, no matter who you are or why you’re here.



Chapter Two
    The Three Ingredients for Slow Sex
    N ow, about that technique…?”
    Enough with the philosophy! If you’re like most of my students, you’re ready to hear the details of the practice by now. Which is only natural, after all. When we hear the term “sex practice,” we automatically assume we’re talking about an unusual position or outlandish technique. Not for nothing; we live in a “more is better” culture. When things need a lift in the bedroom, we’ve been taught that the answer is to add something to the experience—toys, sexy talk, lingerie, tantric postures, massage oils, you name it. When I put our little OM technique out there