him another change.
As it turned out, it was the best decision of my life. Yes, my husband still enjoys sports, but not to the extent that it crowds out the other activities in our lives. He also enjoys cooking with me, and even suggested that we take a cooking class together. So see? By being patient and trying to understand the reasons behind his actions, I realized that he was the man for me. Had I acted upon my initial pangs of pickiness,
I might have never found my match. The take home message to my book is this: You should never compromise your values, nor should you ever try to change someone for who they are, simply to accommodate your own picky ways. You should, however, try to give every potential date the benefit of the doubt, and realize that every person you date doesn't have to be exactly the same as you are.
Differences are good, and it doesn't really matter if your potential mate likes sports, went to college, likes to read, likes to cook or has brown hair. What does matter, is if they have a kind heart, a loving nature and the ability to make you smile. What more could you ask for?
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Bonus Book
The Ecstasy And The Agony
Marisa stared down at the eviction notice, reading it a second time as her eyes skimmed over the letter. “You are hereby ordered to leave the premises in one week,” she read out loud. She could feel the tears stinging the back of her eyes.
She knew that it was only a matter of time, being two months behind rent and no sign of when she could catch up, she was just thankful that they waited this long. She put the letter in her purse and got out of the car. She could only hope that hours at her waitress job would begin to pick up.
She entered the restaurant, passing through the dining area to get to the time clock. She nodded to the occasional regular customer, giving them her best smile. She didn’t want to show the outside world just how much she was struggling.
When she got in the break room, she headed to the table that always held the new schedule. She looked around and saw that her friend, Chad, was there. “Hey, Marisa, the schedule isn’t out yet.”
“Oh…” her face fell, then went to the hallway where her boss’ door was wide open. “Is Frank in a good mood?” she asked, with a lighthearted laugh.
Chad shrugged, “Haven’t really had to talk to him.” He stood up from the table and smiled her way. “See ya around.”
She nodded, “Bye, Chad.”
She headed down the hallway and peeked inside to find that he was looking down at some papers and she wondered if it was the schedule. She knocked and he looked up briefly, then his head went back down. “Hello,” he mumbled.
“Hello,” she nervously looked around the office. “May I talk to you for just a minute?”
He seemed to groan, as he looked back up. “Sure.”
“Well…I don’t exactly know how to approach the subject.”
He rolled his eyes, “Just say it.”
She sat down in the chair that was facing him. His expectant stare was nerve wracking. “See, I was hoping that maybe next week I could have some extra hours, anything that you can give me.” She was pleading, but she was desperate. She didn’t want to tell him about the eviction notice, so she hoped that it wouldn’t come to that.”
He looked away from her. She saw a pained expression in his eyes. “Marisa, we need to talk.” She didn’t like the sound of that, but she just nodded. “I was going to tell everyone this in a couple of days, but there really is no reason dragging it on. You have been a valuable employee for the last five years and I owe you that much.”
Her jaw dropped, it didn’t sound like happy news that he was about to share. “What are you trying to say, Frank?”
His eyes feel to the stack of papers on his desk. He leaned forward,