physically inactive you were in the past, or whether you’re naturally athletic, discovering new ways of moving can transform your sense of self. Experiencing your body in novel ways can help create new neural tracks in your brain, actually changing how your mental functions work on a daily basis. And the boost in self-esteem you experience from new forms of exercise can enhance your capacity for great sex. When you feel more confident on the dance floor, on the soccer field, or in whatever exercise you choose, your confidence carries over into every other physical activity you engage in—and sex, of course, is no exception.
There’s also a lot to be said for the pleasure you can experience by reaching measurable goals and outperforming your personal best. If you swim more laps, walk more miles, or lift more weight than you once thought yourself capable of, it also lifts your spirit and changes your sense of yourself. And while exercise is changing your mind, it’s changing your body as well, giving you the added satisfaction of seeing it become fitter.
If you’ve been physically inactive, and you find the idea of exercise unappealing, it’s time to find a form of movement that lets you rediscover the joys of experiencing your body in new ways. Meaningful movement is one of your direct routes to becoming a healthier, happier person, more connected with your body, and more in tune with your sexual energy. And once you’re on the move, it’s that much easier to keep up your momentum. The more you exercise, the more likely you are to continue to do so. Make it your way of life, and it becomes you . The benefits for your health and your sexuality will multiply manyfold; it’s the “gift that keeps moving.”
Balancing Your Sexuality with Yin and Yang Exercises
Balance is the key when it comes to exercise and your libido; for example, you want to get the benefits of both aerobic exercise and resistance exercise like weight lifting (at least 20 minutes of each, three to four times a week). We can also use the principles of Chinese medicine to create balance by thinking about different types of exercise as either yin or yang. Yin exercises are gentler and may involve concentrated focus or “centering” techniques; examples include some forms of yoga and stretching. When you feel stressed, yin exercise can be especially effective in shifting your energy into a calm, relaxed state—from a sympathetic-nervous-system response to a parasympathetic response. Yang exercises typically push your body more intensely; examples include mountain climbing with a heavy pack, or running.
Many exercises can be either yin or yang, depending on your approach. Swimming, for instance, can be a mellow yin activity in placid water, or a vigorous yang exercise in rough water. Yoga can likewise be yin or yang; if you take a restorative hatha yoga class, and you hold supported positions while breathing deeply, you’re doing a yin form of exercise. On the other hand, if you practice Bikram yoga for 90 minutes in a heated room, you’re practicing a yang form of yoga.
You can support your entire body, reinforce your chi, and help optimize the health of your libido by creating a balance of yin and yang exercises in your life. Too much yin exercise, without enough yang exercise to balance it, can lead to stagnation, low energy, and diminished libido. Excessive yang exercise, without sufficient yin exercise to offset it, can burn out your energy and disrupt your hormonal balance. Energy and balanced hormones are both essential for keeping your sex drive healthy.
You can use the following list of yin and yang exercises as a general guide for creating balance in your life. Each exercise is categorized on the basis of how it’s typically experienced by the average person. But again, you can make many activities either yin or yang, depending on the degree of intensity you bring to them.
Yin Exercises
Yang Exercises
Gentle hatha yoga
Bikram or