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precautions.
     
    ON TRANSITIONING
Do nothing in a hurry especially when you are feeling lonely.
Acknowledge, honour, process and deal with your emotions.
Accept the support of others.  
Take charge of the unexpected.
Take care of yourself physically.
Know that you can take charge of your current situation and move forward.
Maintain a perspective and a positive mental attitude.
     
    ON CAREER 
Stay positive and open-minded about the work situation.
You have to protect your job, as your family is counting on you.
Be grateful that you have a job.
Be prepared to lend a hand in the workplace.
Take initiative.
Take risks at work others may not take.
Demonstrate that you are an enthusiastic, valuable player on the team.
     
    ON LAW OF ATTRACTION AND THE ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE      
Create a list of all the things you DO have.
Eliminate negative thoughts and become an observer of your thoughts.
  Use positive affirmations to establish a way of replacing the negative self-talk.
  Develop an attitude of gratitude.  Be an appreciator of things you already have.
  Break the habit of attracting negatives by focusing on positives.
  Buy a Scrap book and fill it with pictures of what you want to see realised in your life.
  Use LOA to reduce stress by using affirmations.
     
    ON TOOLS TO BRING YOU BACK INTO BALANCE
   Remember, you can’t do this alone. And, you don’t have to.
  Choose a tool that suits you.
  Find 15 minutes a day for yourself to bring your stress levels   down.
  Be consistent and you will notice how much better you cope.
     
    ON PARENTING
Make sure the children understand that they are not at fault for the choices grown-ups make.
Listen to your children.
Do not be disrespectful to the child’s father or to yourself.
Reassure them that they are loved.
Encourage your child to see the good in their father and you.
Define set boundaries regarding your ex or potential ex and his access to you.
Keep communication simple.
Agree to a positive communication style.
Teach your child respect.
Model positive reactive behaviour.

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT
     
    I do believe that much of what we continually attract in our lives, especially one relationship after another, is a reflection of what is going on inside of us.
    This was the harshest realization I ever had to face in my life and it wasn’t until the end of my third relationship that I got it, faced it and decided to change it.
     
    There is no power in blaming the other person as not being ‘the right one’ or it was something the other person did or was.  Ask yourself, “What is it in me that continues to attract the same kind of situation or person into my life over and over and over again?”
     
    Much of my conditioning and watching what my mother and her generation settled for was so ingrained in my psyche that I took it on board without realizing it.  I watched as my mother and grandmother’s generation settled for less than adequate. I came from a conditioning that went something like:  “You should be so lucky he even looks at you and that he lets you breathe the same oxygen as he does”.   Never in any of the relationships I experienced in the earlier part of my life, did I feel adequate, worthy and deserving.  It was my lack of self-respect, self-love and worthlessness that continued to attract the same kind of man into my life, over and over and over again. 
     
    I kept attracting men who thought as little of me as I thought of myself.  I could not blame any one of them for treating me any less that they did, because I had not learned to love myself first.  So how could they give me the love and respect that I did not have for myself?
     
    Very recently I was given something from a friend that was truly awe inspiring and came to me when I had made one of the most difficult decisions of my life.  And I did it because I had grown to love myself.  I finally developed the self-respect and self-love I so deserved.  I would like to