stick-like figures on surfboards, and then collapsed like thunder. Tailfins shot into the air while bodies flayed and star-jumped into the water.
Somehow, the shifting moods of the bay always soothed or elevated my own. I never understood quite how this worked, but it seemed that in the bayâs enormity, with the crescent of green that clung to its foreshore, I was always accommodated.
MY GRADUAL WITHDRAWAL from work was a relief. By that August, I was only coming into my practice once a month, to see a handful of long-term clients. But the nights were penetrated by bad dreams, and it took me up to an hour to get to sleep. The more I let go of work, the more I unravelled.
I brought my old cricket bat into the bedroom, resting it by the bed, within armâs reach. Although Iâd never heard of anything bad happening in our neighbourhood, I feared that we might experience a home invasion. I especially feared for the safety of the girls and Anna. Anna said that I was overreacting.
The kidsâ noise and demands had become irritating. It was okay when they didnât squabble, but they were ten, seven, and five â squabbles were inevitable. Sometimes I wished theyâd go away. Anna prodded me to do things, and I wasnât sure if she was being bossy or I was being slack. My energy for gardening disappeared â the weeds and wilting plants taunted me. I felt uncomfortable in crowds and didnât like confined spaces. Other than my swimming, most things required too much effort. On weekends I sat for long periods on the verandah, reading the newspaper. I was drawn to articles about murders, disasters, and neglect of children, even as I was repulsed by the stories.
Our family attended Nippers, a surf-lifesaving program for children, on Sunday mornings. But I was frustrated when the girls held back, fearful of going in the waves. I didnât remember being afraid of the waves when I was young.
What was happening to me? I was prickly, yet as fragile as porcelain. What I perceived as aggressive words from others frightened me. Watching the news, I had begun to cry at pictures showing human or animal distress, and even at sentimental, good-news stories. I had an idea Iâd seen too much human suffering, especially trauma. But I wasnât sure if that was the whole story. Images of Dadâs near-death and what might happen next sloshed around in my mind.
I knew that I needed help, but from whom? I was the helper â the one others always relied upon to know what to do. Iâd talked to my colleagues, but how much could I burden them? I needed someone else; I couldnât do this by myself anymore.
I thought of the psychologists in our area. There were not many with more experience than me. I called Wayne, a clinical psychologist. I knew he had done his PhD on psychological trauma in Vietnam War veterans, and weâd spoken a couple of times, over the phone, about trauma cases. He was the best I could find. I made an appointment for September.
3
WAYNEâS OFFICE WAS on the first floor of an old building in a nearby town. As I walked up the staircase, each step felt like a deepening admission of my crushed sense of invincibility. At the top, there was no receptionist. I waited in a poky room, alone, sitting on one of the worn chairs. A radio bleated from the corner.
Out of a door came a tall, broad-shouldered man in his late fifties, dressed like a farmer in town clothes. He had florid hair â a style that was a throwback to the seventies â a fleshy face, and a generous mouth. âDavid?â he said, looking at me.
âYes.â
âGâday. Wayne.â
He invited me in. Like mine, his consulting room was unadorned; there were no personal items, except for framed degrees and certificates. But it was light-filled, with a big open window. The noises of cars, conversation, and a buskerâs banjo floated up from the street below.
âHave a seat over