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approach. But a few of you might say that none of those questions covers whether or not a guy can turn me on. The good news is that, barring a strange anatomical misfortune, the guys who are compatible with your long-term happiness also have penises capable of giving you pleasure.
    Please do yourself a favor and wait for one of those.
    So how do the answers to the Important Questions help to determine compatibility? Which personality types work with which others? First, I need to provide a disclaimer: there isn’t a universally-accepted personality test that provides pinpoint accuracy in determining a person’s nature. Even Myers-Briggs, the most commonly used, has been the subject of an ongoing debate about its effectiveness. Theory and practice don’t always make ideal bedfellows, and neither people nor life itself is constant, so no test could possibly assess people with perfect accuracy over the course of their ever-changing lives. Neither life nor the people who live it is at all perfect—ever.
    Side note: If either you or your life is perfect, put this book down now. Better yet, give it to a friend who could use some good advice or just something to make her laugh one rainy afternoon. Then give me a call through my publisher and say I expressly insisted you get through to me. Seriously. I’ll never be too old or too successful to benefit from the advice of a Perfect Person.
    Back to compatibility.
    I can recommend a good book on this subject, which gives you all the necessary detail about the possible compatibility of your own personality with the other fifteen types identified in the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator). It called Just Your Type by Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger, and it further explores this topic via both theory and research. This field of thought began in the 1970s with research by a Lithuanian sociologist and dean of family science named Aušra Augustinavičiūtė. The good doctor (whose name I won’t attempt to spell again) developed ideas, which he dubbed “socionics,” about how Jung’s personality types interact with one another.
    Although socionics has never been widely recognized in academia, it has become more popular since the rise of the internet. There are dating websites that match people solely based on it, and there are schools of socionics in Eastern Europe. I’m not endorsing socionics as the ultimate indicator of whether you and male X will make it, or whether you’ll end up furiously throwing each other’s shit out of an apartment window.  I am only highlighting this as a fresh lens through which to view compatibility.
    Examining the compatibility of the many different personality combos (136 of them), I found a few interesting consistencies. First, contrary to what you might think, men with your exact same personality profile aren’t necessarily your ideal mates. In the same way that being with someone with identical MHC (the immune system imprint that we all carry) isn’t ideal, being with your personality doppelganger isn’t either. While that person may echo your beliefs and outlook, he also won’t add anything new. Boredom might develop over the long term if both partners remain the same. In fact, continued success often requires that one partner assumes an opposite but complementary trait; for example, one becomes a people person when both were homebodies before.
    A second consistency is that the “opposites attract” stuff is sort of bullshit. You might be attracted to your polar opposite but, according to socionics, it’s the last person you should be with. A person with all four traits contrary to yours represents the worst chance for long-term compatibility. So if you’re an intuitive loner with your heart on your sleeve, who prefers to “discuss” rather than “debate,” avoid that charismatic, sternly rational guy who loves nothing more than winning an argument. Socionics says you two are doomed.
    Here’s the third and perhaps most