I’ve never found anyone (including docs) who are familiar with the dysfunction or have any suggestions for improving it. I began
using Viagra and Cialis to help me keep it up long enough to have an orgasm – often well over an hour of intense stimulation. I thought regular doses of porn were also
necessary. Good news: by staying away from porn, I am now experiencing some of the most
satisfying sex of my life with no ED meds; and I’ve got two decades on most of you. My erections are more frequent, firmer and longer lasting, and our lovemaking is relaxing and lasts as long as both of us want it to.
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(4 months without porn) Yesterday was my birthday, and my girlfriend and I had sex.
We've been sexually active for months, but I had never orgasmed once during sex, until yesterday. It was the greatest feeling ever. It's a huge weight lifted off both my shoulders and my girlfriend's, as she was feeling rather self-conscious about the issue.
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I had some pretty bad delayed ejaculation problems with my previous girlfriend. I'm talking 2-3 hours of sex for me to be able to get off (so usually I ended up just stopping and going home and fapping).
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My success continues in week 10 of my reboot...an even better session with the missus tonight. Not only did I blow my load relatively quickly (defeating DE), I did it without having to go as vigorously as I usually would to finish. I went slow all the way, like never before, and it was brilliant. I could even say that I tried to back right off towards the end as I didn't want to finish so soon! Not bad for someone with a bad case of DE for a number of years.
Unreliable erections during sexual encounters
As mentioned, on most forums ED is the number-one reason men choose to give up porn.
Eminent urologist Harry Fisch, MD is also seeing porn-related sexual dysfunctions in his practice. In The New Naked he writes:
I can tell how much porn a man watches as soon as he starts talking candidly about any
sexual dysfunction he has. ... A man who masturbates frequently can soon develop erection problems when he's with his partner. Add porn to the mix, and he can become unable to have
sex. ... A penis that has grown accustomed to a particular kind of sensation leading to rapid
ejaculation will not work the same way when it's aroused differently. Orgasm is delayed or doesn't happen at all.
In 2014, a Canadian sexologists' stud y[21] showed that problems in sexual functioning are curiously higher in adolescent males than in adult males (which are already rising). Said researchers:
53.5% [of male teens] were classified as reporting symptoms indicative of a sexual problem. Erectile dysfunction and low desire were the most common.
High rates of limp penises and low sexual desire in teenage males should make everyone take notice as being extremely surprising. Imagine how unheard of these conditions would be in
young bulls and stallions. Yet the sexologists conducting the research were ‘unclear’ why they found such high rates, and didn't even mention internet porn overuse as a possible influence. The recent Cambridge study by addiction neuroscientists found that almost 60% of the addicts they
examined, ‘experienced diminished libido or erectile function specifically in physical
relationships with women (although not in relationship to the sexually explicit material)’ as a result of excessive porn use. [22]
I have seen two diverging patterns of recovery. A few men bounce back in a relatively short
time: about 2-3 weeks. Perhaps their difficulties are due to psychological conditioning, excessive levels of masturbation (fuelled by internet porn), or a minor case of desensitisation (an addiction-related change we'll discuss in the next chapter).
The vast majority of guys need 2-6 months (or longer) to fully recover. Most ‘long-rebooters’ experience a variety of withdrawal symptoms, including the dreaded flatline.
Typically, they are younger guys