the prohibition on them after sixty, once you experience multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms, the typical “squirt” orgasm is a pale comparison and hardly missed.
The most important thing, however, is not to give yourself a hard time about ejaculating. When you feel that you are past the point of no return and are going to ejaculate, enjoy it. Many men who want to practice Healing Love start to judge themselves if they have trouble learning to control their ejaculations. Focus on being with your partner and exchanging Healing Love, not on whether you did or did not ejaculate.
Learning to circulate your sexual energy (as you will learn in chapter 3) can happen even if you eventually ejaculate. This will far reduce the feeling of depletion after ejaculation. In addition, after you do ejaculate, you can also contract your PC muscle to tighten your pelvic muscles and reduce the amount of energy that is lost.
In the end, what is most important is that you are making love with yourself and with your partner. Cultivating compassion for yourself and for your partner is much more important than how much energy you conserve.
From Genital Orgasms to Whole-Body Orgasms
The physical techniques described in this chapter, especially breathing and contracting your PC muscle, will allow you to separate orgasm from ejaculation
A man can attain good health and longevity by ejaculating twice a month.
Conserving and circulating the energy magnifies the intensity of the orgasm and enables the body to retain the energy for longer-lasting pleasure and health.
and become multi-orgasmic. Still, the real secret to long-term ejaculatory control—and multiple orgasms—is learning to circulate your sexual energy out of your genitals and to the rest of your body. As long as sexual energy continues to build up in your genitals, it will eventually cause you to ejaculate unless you stop lovemaking or learn to redirect it out of your genitals. Ejaculation can hap-pen only if there is enough energy and blood in the genitals to trigger ejaculation.
By drawing the energy up and away from your genitals, as we explain in chapter 3, you will be able to control your sexual energy for as long as you want. Conserving and circulating the energy magnifies the intensity of the orgasm and enables the body to retain the energy for longer-lasting pleasure and health.
The combination of a man’s using his sexual strength (his PC muscle), his sexual sensitivity (his ability to be aware of his arousal rate), and his ability to circulate sexual energy should help immeasurably in allowing him to become multi-orgasmic.
Women lose far less energy than men when they orgasm (and even when they ejaculate 6 ). However, when women have a single strong terminal orgasm, they often experience a loss of energy and a loss of their desire to make love. By drawing their sexual energy up and multiplying their orgasms, they will feel more energized and more aroused. This is particularly important for women who have difficulty feeling desire
Both you and your partner will be able to expand your genital orgasms into whole-body orgasms as you learn to circulate the energy and pleasure to the rest of your body. This is also the basis for transforming that wonderful orgasmic twitch into an experience that is ecstatic, healing, intimate, and for some even spiritual. The rest of the Arts of the Bedchamber await you.
CHAPTER 2
The Pool of Desire: Multiple Orgasms for Women
In this chapter, you will discover:
The Power of Your Desire and How to Exercise Your Passion
Your Erotic Fingerprint
How to Strengthen Your PC Muscle for Stronger Orgasms
The Nine Steps to Multiple Orgasms for Any Woman
How to Overcome Difficulties Having Orgasms
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Every woman can have a passionate and deeply satisfying sex life. Many women, however, still have difficulty experiencing their full desire and being regularly orgasmic. According to one recent study that we discuss below, one-third of