my phone to one of my workers, who
was from Mexico. He answered, said I was at lunch and had left my phone with
him. He knew I didn’t like talking to her so as a joke on me, he said how much
I liked her, thought she was pretty and loved talking to her. The next day she
came to the club and really hooked me up. She said, “I didn’t know you thought
I was so pretty.” She was so happy, and I realized what a great idea this was.
I honed my accent and started answering my phone saying I was him. When a
client identified herself, I would say, “Oh is this the pretty girl he talks
about all the time?” After a short conversation she would think I was the
sweetest guy in the world and the money would roll in!
Many of the women who come in the club assume we are having
sex with just about every woman who tips us. In reality, it’s much better to
take that customer/dancer relationship to the friend zone. Believe it or not, I’ve
seen many cases where the girl chases the guy, gets the guy and then moves on.
Boys aren’t the only ones who do that. Our world is almost completely flipped
from reality. Whenever a tipper starts to get too aggressive about going out on
a date, you are about to lose her. If you can manage to take her to the friend
zone, you might keep her for a long time. I’ve seen many ex-dancers continue
friendships after the dance years are over. Usually these women will still give
them money too. As “friends”, dancers will meet up with them and have dinner
and a movie. Or just lunch.
Not all the dancers will hang out with their customers. The
ones who are in relationships usually don’t, and this is a barrier to their
ability to make more money. I am a relationship type of guy, so I found other
ways outside the club to make money. Roadshows and strip-o-grams helped quite a
bit.
Having been both single and in a relationship while
stripping, I saw the difference. When a dancer is single and on the prowl
trying to get laid, he can’t help but make money. The women sense it. It must
be chemical. When you are in a relationship, the job can be very draining
mentally. Having to deal with women coming on to you when you don’t want them
is tiring.
How to Seduce a Dancer
First of all, tip him! It’s not just about the money; it’s
about respect too. He is at work, after all. Would you tip a waiter? Also, it’s
fine to tip other dancers, but don’t get a lap dance from them. A dancer wants
to feel just as special to you as you are to him.
Humor is always a plus. Eye contact is one of the best and most
intimate ways to let him know you are interested.
Here is what not to do if you want to date that
stripper!
First of all, don’t ask if he’s gay! Not that there’s
anything wrong with being gay, but we get that question all the time, and it
gets old fast.
Don’t say, “Work for this dollar.” We immediately think you
are cheap. Really!? It’s a dollar. I’m mostly naked, and all I’m worth is a
dollar!?
Don’t flirt with other dancers. In this business, we meet a
lot of flakes, so don’t be one. You have developed something of a relationship
with him so standard rules now apply.
Don’t be a stalker. Following a dancer around the club while
he’s trying to work is very bad.
Don’t befriend his customers so you can get information
about him.
Don’t become a regular. He needs some space. Be cool and understanding
about his job.
Don’t pressure him to hang out after work. If he wants to,
he will ask you.
Don’t ever pull down a dancer’s pants. He is probably limp
and not exactly hanging well. This can hurt his money for the night, either
because he gets mad or the other women are not tipping him because they already
saw him naked.
Don’t say “I’ve spent all my money on you” if you haven’t.
He knows exactly how much money you’ve spent.
Don’t brag about money and not throw down. The biggest
tipper I’ve ever had told me she was just a secretary and then proceeded