quite so funny when one is ten. Fart jokes, all the rage in high school, lose their charm over time, and that is largely due to the familiarity that comes with repetition. The funniest joke youâve ever heard loses some of its edge by the fifth time itâs told, and by the twentieth itâs stale beer.
Nevertheless, I do miss laughing like I used to: the kind of laugh that scrinches up your face and leaves you gasping for air: the kind of laugh that lasts so long your stomach hurts. They still come along from time to time, but with each passing year, one is exposed to more and more things, and more and more of them are repeats or variations of things youâve seen or heard before. A good laugh sneaks up on you from behind and yells âBOO!â: when you can see it coming from a block away, youâre pretty inured to it by the time it arrives.
I can still recall the source of one of my best and longest laughs: It was a (
Mad Magazine
?) spoof on high school yearbooks. In the section devoted to class photos, there were the usual, typical photos weâve all seen a thousand times, each studentâs photo about 2 x 2 ½ inches, perhaps 24 to a page. A page of Seniors, a page of Juniors, two pages of Sophomoresâ¦all typical of annuals. Then turning to the Freshmen, there were what looked to be 10,000 tiny, 1/8 x 1/8 inch thumbnail shots. I went into hysterics the first time I saw it, and it still makes me laugh just thinking about it.
And of course, each of us has our own type of humor: things I find laugh-out-loud funny, you may stare at blanklyâ¦and vice-versa. Books have been written on what people find funny, and why. Mine tends to lean toward the totally unexpected, out-of-left-field slap up the side of the head, like the freshmenâs page in the yearbook spoof. But I also go equally for humor that creeps up slowly, as is epitomized so often by covers of the
New Yorker
magazine. These are seldom guffaw-inducing, but they are incredibly satisfying. An example of that type of subtle humor is also epitomized for me in another
New Yorker
cartoon of a vase on a table under a mirror. The vase has two daisies: the one facing out into the room is totally wilted; the one turned to the mirror is picture-perfect.
Some humor escapes me totally. I never, as a child, found The Three Stoogesâor slapstick in generalâto be remotely amusing. I never cared much for Bob Hope, either. Maybe, again, itâs a matter of preferring to have it sneak up on me; to have to think about it for a split second or two.
Scientific studies have shown the therapeutic benefits of laughter, and some even claim that the simple, physical act of smilingâeven forcing yourself to grin when you donât feel like itâhas definite health benefits.
It sometimes seems that humor is similar to our planetâs other dwindling resources: and that nothing is funny anymore. But itâs still there, if we take the time to look for it, and it is worth all the gold in the world.
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IDENTITIES
Every human being has his/her own identity, formed over the years, which reflects the people and things with whom we ourselves identify. Our earliest exposure to other humans who provide keys to our eventual identity is, of course, to our parents, and we use this identity predominantly in a positive way. As we age we tend to become, with no particular effort on our parts, more like our parents. Rarely, we strive consciously
not
to be like them. But while it is they who primarily point us in the direction of who we will eventually become, they are not the only influencing factors.
Unlike circumstances beyond our control which shape who we become, the things with which we identify are largely a matter of choice and not some little effort, conscious or subconscious. And we tend to identify with them because at some point and for some reason we wanted to emulate them.
The books we read, the music we listen to, all the
Madison Layle & Anna Leigh Keaton
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