pas,
Je te bâtonne!
Cutie-pie, Cutie-pie,
Oh so sweet.
If you want bread,
Youâll get some to eat.
But if you refuse,
Youâll get beat!
âTraditional French nursery rhyme
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By the beginning of September, we were all looking forward to the start of the school year. No one had been awaiting la rentrée more eagerly than Sophie, who desperately wanted to meet kids her own age. So on the first day of school, we were there bright and early. Sophie walked clutching my hand, followed by my mother-in-law, while Philippe brought up the rear with Claire, dressed to match her sister (precious, but I couldnât resist). Janine had drawn my attention to the fact that French schoolchildren, even in a little country village, were much better dressed than their American counterpartsâso Sophie had gotten a new outfit only days before. She looked adorable in a dusty rose shirt-dress with taupe leggings; I had judged earth tonesâa popular choice amongst French parentsâto be the safest bet for my kids (although lots of French children wear white, which mysteriously stays spotless).
Sophie and I had gone together in one of our first-ever mom and daughter clothes-shopping outings. On the drive home, I had reassured her that this yearâher first in full-time schoolâwould be just great. At the back of my mind was an image of eager village children being fascinated by lâAméricaine , falling over themselves to befriend the new girl. But I had forgotten what kids could be like. And I had no idea what a small village could be like (having lived in big cities all my life). I soon learned: if you donât know the rules, youâre the village idiot. As I was about to learn, my daughter didnât know the rules. And neither, apparently, did I.
The first inkling I had of trouble was the small white sheet posted on the front door of the school. The contents of the piece of paper were impossible for me to decipher. It was marked with todayâs date. It seemed like a list. It had lots of strange words that I couldnât recognize. But I did recognize the days of the week. Maybe it was a list of after-school classes?
Mais non! My husband said, laughing. âThis is a menu.â
I looked again and saw that he was right. Across the top of the paper, the days of the week were listed. Wednesday was missing, but that was normal, I reminded myself: French kids go to school only four days a week, with Wednesdays being devoted to sports and other extracurricular activities. Running down the left-hand side were the standard four parts of the French meal: entrée (first course), plat principal (main course), salade and fromage (cheese), and dessert . But I didnât recognize much else.
This, my husband patiently explained, was the list of what the children were going to eat at lunch for that week in the school cantine . The meals were designed to be tasty, healthy, and varied. They were also inexpensive: on average $3, although children from lower-income families paid lower rates (the lowest fee at our school was less than a $1 per meal). The school posted the menu on each entrance door so that parents (and children) would know what was being served for lunch.
The cantine is a universal institution in Franceâfound not only in primary and high schools, but also in many government buildings and private companies. The word is difficult to translate. The closest word in English is âcafeteria,â but this incorrectly conjures up memories of the soggy pizza and overpriced French fries that were the norm at my high school. The best way to think about a school cantine in France is to imagine what your high school cafeteria would have been like if the food had been made by Cordon Bleu chefs-in-training, overseen by a nutritionist, and served to you at the table by maternal waiters (who were only too happy to cut up your meat if you couldnât quite manage it). The official term
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